So, I'm over fifty and because I'm basically glued to this bed 24/7, I need to do whatever shopping hubby dearest can't do himself, on-line. Thank goodness we now DO have that option. I often think that these on-line stores could very well go out of business were people like me (us?) to stop ordering from them - the people who are just too ill to shop. I have my books covered, drugstore needs, even "beauty" needs, thanks to drugstore.com, beauty. com, Sephora. I can even keep up with any fancy-shmancy cooking, baking and dining needs when I add in Williams Sonoma and King Arthur's Flour, both on-line. But the clothing situation is still a huge mystery and a way-too-expensive proposition. First of all, I think all of us who are over fifty have a bit of of a problem finding fashions which are just right. The market seems to cater to those who are youngsters, a look that is pitiful on those of us who are, ahem, shall I use that word yet again, "mature"? But "mature" doesn't mean "dowdy," and that's the look I often find...things my 80+ year old mom would wear - on a very bad day. This is a situation that is particularly frustrating to the over-fifty crowd because we were spoiled all of our lives: we were the baby boomers and thus the demographic that the marketing world wanted ever so much. No matter what our age was - be it fifteen and Noxema, nineteen and being revolutionary with pantsuits, thirty and disposable diapers for our babies, fifty and luxury cars - our buying habits, budgets and dollars were catered to. I even thought that the trend to coddle to us would last well into our eighty's. How often have hubby and I looked at each other after a commercial and burst out laughing saying, "God, but it's good to be a baby-boomer...they just never stop trying to get our dollar!" But it looks as if that ship has sailed, somewhat. The beauty industry still wants us, as is evidenced by all the anti-aging and firming products out there. The pharms want us as is evidenced by all medication such as once-a-month calcium, cholesterol-lowering drugs, as well as the happy-in-bed market I won't name here. But the only industry that seems to have really given up on us is the fashion industry. Look at the shoes alone. The platform shoes out there today aren't really platform...they are simply a westernized version of the era in China when women were not meant to walk at all, just hobble along for a few steps. How crazy is it that the shoes of today have become so unnatural that there are places on YouTube that actually teach you how to walk in these crazy shoes? I mean, hey, I'm all for high heels and suffering for beauty in general. On the night of that infamous blind date with hubby, I came down with 13 blisters - yes, 13! I counted! - because of my sexy brand new high-heeled sandals and future hubby's desire to find a certain restaurant in the Village, the only one where my friend could eat due to religious dietary restrictions. We walked all over the place trying to find that tiny inconspicuous place. Well, I hobbled. A month into our "courtship" I was finally dragged by future hubby to go shopping with him for my first pair of flat shoes since about the age of 16 when I received my learner's permit and no longer needed to walk. But New York City: eek! They walk! The fashions today? I keep thinking they are very similar to the ones of the 80's, the era before the football player size shoulder pads, an era when no one could get a handle on what was going on. And how many dresses or looks today won't even allow a bra? The fashion editor who guides the designers on "Project Runway: All Stars" finally got fed up last week when Michael's latest creation was yet another design which only lovely, young and very thin models could wear, not real women who actually buy said fashion. No bra? It's a sorry sight for most women, much less those over 50. Ouch! Those dresses with the cinched waist and full skirt? Uh, if you're into "I Love Lucy Shows," or worse Minnie Mouse. Besides, the suggestion/advice is that if it was in style when you were young and it's now on its second time around, please do not buy that style...it won't suit! I've shopped at Eddie Bauer, and Old Navy/Gap/Banana Republic. They're good for some looks. I've shopped on-line at Nordstrom and not been too overly happy. Most has to be returned and then you end up messing up your credit card balances with the returns that take forever with the credit card companies. Everything is either too young or too old. I've searched the Internet for fashion for women over fifty and am not getting good results. Heck, even the couple of times I've been in a store in person at Macy's or Saks, I've had to dig to find anything suitable and usually end up buying something only out of desperation and not because I've fallen in love with said garment. Of course, why would I need clothes when I basically live only in long cotton nightgowns? Well, a girl has to have something to wear to see her doctor or get her hair cut every few months. I still have SOME standards. Any suggestions for on-line shopping for the over-fifty's? Let me know! It's getting a bit tough to laugh about anything as serious as fashion. ;)
- irene speaks
- I'm a mom, a wife, a best friend. Sick with CFIDS/ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia since 1975 as a result of a nasty flu while still in grad school, it wasn't until the late '80's that I received a diagnosis. Until that flu I'd never really been ill before. With each year I get progressively worse and add to the bucket load of symptoms I'm living with. I've been blessed with an incredible family and best friend who've stayed with me through my struggles as we continue to find a way out of this monstrous illness and its complications. We've tried seemingly every approach to find my way back to health. Often I think our best weapon in this undesirable and unasked-for adventure has been laughter.